Wednesday, January 20, 2016

GOTTA FESS UP!

It's nothing earth shattering and it wasn't an untruth I told. A couple of months ago I realized it was time to move. Some of you may have guessed it from all my gushing about my first grand child, Rosalie. We now have 2 babies in the family, and I can't bear to be away from them. Rosalie is 1 1/2 years old, Caleb was just born January 9th, and I am visiting everyone in early February! They are first cousins and live within close proximity. It was not an easy decision to make because I am leaving a son and daughter-in-law behind. They live about 2 hours away from me and don't have any children right now. But there are many reasons, not only my grand babies, and I will not go into all of them in my post. Whether I live in California or Michigan, I will always visit my children.

Michigan offers many new experiences I look forward to. A vintage style house I get to choose and make my own, a big church with a singles group for 50 and over, hopefully many dancing opportunities, and very important is the lower cost of living. I will be in the antique capital of the United States, my opinion, of course. Loving antiques and shabby chic, I will have great fun junking with my friend Cheryl, Rachel's mom. We often do just that when I have visited in the past. And yes, they have weather with a capital 'W' and four distinct seasons. Many different photography opportunities, which is another hobby I love. People say I will acclimate to the weather, hopefully. Noticing the teen numbers this last week, I can only imagine myself looking like an abominable snowman, with 10 layers, and just my eyes peaking through. Haha, hopefully it won't be that bad. But perhaps taking 10 minutes to peel off the layers when I arrive some place, and then 10 minutes to put them all back on, upon departure. Yikes, I'm not kidding! But change is always welcome. I thrive on it, always loving to grow and change - to me makes life more exhilarating.

Why did it take 3 months to blog about my move? Until recently it felt over-whelming with all the decisions I had to make. Also I was writing less frequently and didn't like that. An hour ago I sat down to pay a bill online, I clicked Blogger and sat there thinking. A few minutes later it came to me - I am going to tell the world about my move. Now I have much more to share.

Thank you, good night and God Bless!   Aleta

"Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever."  Mahatma Ghandi



Saturday, January 16, 2016

WAIT, I TAKE THAT BACK!

Most of us don't want to exercise. Wait, I take that back - I do! Okay, yes, I'm weird and proud of it, which makes me even more weird. We have to like who we are, and that is something I always strive for. Exercise wakes up my body and allows me to know I am alive and everything is working. We all know with age, our parts wear out. I am not going to bore you or make you feel guilty about not exercising.  I am suggesting we start small - stretching.

Stretching is a must. Remember waking up in the morning, opening up your chest and carefully stretching both arms out? When you think about it, it is really a beautiful movement, almost like a ballet stance. Whether you like to dance, don't like to dance, or think you should never dance because you are not coordinated, dancing is a great way to get exercise. Being a dancer myself, I don't need a reason to dance. When music moves me, my body responds.

If you are always on the go or a sedentary personality, stretching is something we can all do every day taking only minutes. The older we get the stiffer and less flexible our joints become. That's where stretching will keep them healthier. Find stretches that help the low back, knees, arms, legs and even feet. Always start slowly and never bounce when you stretch. Stretching the feet might sound foreign to some. Standing on the edge of stairs, and lifting up (counting to a minimum of 30) does a couple things: it's good to strengthen calves and makes the muscles in the feet stronger. Your calves will burn toward the end, and you will need to walk it off. Seniors often fall because of weak musculature in the feet.

One thing I found to help with stretches is a book on Yoga, it's a favorite. Unfortunately, for years I stayed away from yoga, thinking I had to get into Buddhism and chant om! Don't make the same mistake I did. Books and libraries excite me and take me away. But you can also go to the web. By the way, this book has great photos of poses, simple explanations, and is very easy to read. "Discover Yoga" Top That Publishing, 2005. You can get all the same exercises if you research it on the web. Find some stretches that appeal to you and make a choice to be more physically fit!

Thank you, good night and God Bless!    Aleta

"Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in hospitals dying of nothing."  Redd Foxx - African-American comedian and actor

Friday, January 15, 2016

ENJOY EVERY MOMENT!

"Please welcome my newest grand baby, Caleb Joseph. He was born Saturday, January 9th weighing 7lbs 7ounces, 20" long. Both mommy and baby are healthy!😍🙏🏻 They took Caleb home yesterday and (I believe) are spending every moment talking with and staring at their little bundle of joy, their little miracle😍 Even shedding tears of joy, I am sure! 
Saturday was exhausting for Caleb's nonna! Lots of sleep deprivation. From the moment I woke up at 7am, reading texts and updates on labor, etc, I was impatiently waiting for the next update. Then jumping at every text announcement and scrambling to open it - it was like an I Love Lucy segment!😂 Thank you for all your prayers! I get to see both families for 2 weeks in early February. Now I have 2 precious grand babies😍 Thank you God! My heart is so full and I am so blessed"😘

The above is a post from my Facebook account, and since it was aptly said, I couldn't resist a little copy and paste. Being brand new parents, Tina and Ian are holding Caleb, and staring at him, and marveling at their little miracle. After trying for 4 years they were very disheartened. Tina also had a miscarriage in the spring of 2015.

Yesterday texting back and forth with my son, I had an opportunity to impart some wisdom about living day to day, and enjoying every moment. Every new parent hears "They grow up very fast, enjoy every minute". Some people have said to me they are tired of hearing that. But the truth of the matter is, life IS very short, and the older we get, the faster it seems to fly by. Here is the essence of what I said: Thirty five is not over the hill, and it's good that you feel 25. Take good care of your health (exercise and healthy eating), think positively, control anger, and say you're sorry quickly. Even when it isn't your fault. Enjoy your family every moment. You should not let the world determine what you do, or how you live. Adults contend with peer pressure just like school children. And we all have regrets, but the more we go with how our heart feels, the less regrets we will have. People will always have a different opinion, we have to deal with opposition all of our lives. Don't wait until you are 50 or 60 years old (or older) to learn these valuable lessons.

Some of my earlier posts talk a lot about how I have changed. My self talk drove me nuts, and one day I saw a book titled "How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty". Imagine that, remembering clearly the one book, of hundreds I have read over the years, that made such a huge difference to my personal growth. In my early 30's at the time, I knew it was important for me to change. Thank you for allowing me into your very busy lives, one of my greatest wishes is to make a difference in this world.

Thank you, good night and God Bless!   Aleta

"My kids give me the balance to live right."  Celine Dion - Singer, composer and actress









Thursday, January 7, 2016

A CHANGE OF HEART!

Generally we go to the movies to be entertained. But some of us also like to learn. Recently I saw the new movie Joy, with Jennifer Lawrence (young actress from The Hunger Games). Don't worry, I will not divulge anything about how the movie ends. It's based on a true story about a single mom.

Jennifer Lawrence is an excellent actress and portrays Joy beautifully. After seeing it and talking with a few friends about my initial reaction, I've had a change of heart. First of all, I absolutely loved it and would like to include it in my library. After some consideration though, I realize it's not going to appeal to everyone. The critics did not give it a good rating and now I understand why. My idea of entertainment is different than the general public's. Sometimes I like to see a movie that shows how strong the human spirit can be, life lessons, and kindness. Silly comedy and drama definitely is good too.

My appeal is Joy, the story, how it developed, and the character Lawrence played. Her strength and tenacity and how she accepted her responsibilities. She met with a lot of adversity, would stop and think things through, and she had a great attitude. She has a big imagination and she did not let the world dictate how she lived. The end is kind of a surprise. I loved it and hope you do, too. High expectations can spoil experiences sometimes. Don't let me raise or lower yours.

Thank you, good night and God Bless you!   Aleta

"Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. But attitude determines how well you do it!"   Lou Holtz - Former American football player, exceptional coach, and author.

Wednesday, December 23, 2015

CHRISTMAS AND DANGEROUS PIES!

December is such a frenetic time of year. My way of not getting caught up in the craziness may be a little unconventional...or maybe not. All the commercialism is offensive. None of us needs more stuff, but I do love to give gifts. My compromise is simple. Since my kids are all adults and I loathe giving gifts they don't like, I give my sons cash and they can buy what they want. The girls are fun to buy for, sometimes we go shopping together for their gifts. Of course my grand daughter, Rosalie, is fun to buy for.

Christmas is still my favorite holiday. The lights, ornaments, all the different types of trees, little surprises, sentimental cards and ecards, baking, and meals with family and friends, it's all lovely. This year I have been baking a lot, and giving it away as a 'thank you', or a Christmas gift. There is one last piece of pie, banana cream pie, in my refrigerator. It is left over from Monday, when I brought dinner to friends who had a health scare. Since I still had all the ingredients for a pie, I also brought dessert. I almost wish I hadn't.

It started with a thank you to my friend Keith who loaned me his car for a day. His favorite pie is banana cream pie. My first reaction was...but I have never made banana cream pie. Always willing to take a risk, I researched the web for the best scratch recipe. Never wanting to make a homemade pie with box pudding, or anything store bought, I read through about 20 recipes until I found the perfect one. This recipe calls for custard, milk, cornstarch, sugar, and salt. This is a very dangerous recipe. The homemade custard is divine, and I knew I was in trouble with the first bite. Hot, creamy, sweet and oh so smooth and delicate. The most delicious thing I have ever tasted. (I will try to find the recipe so I can pass on the link.)

My dilemma? This last piece of pie is calling to me, even as I write. Custard, bananas, firm yet freckled-sweet, fresh whipping cream, and homemade crust. Being good during the day is easy, it's late at night when I feel the weakest. My options are: throw it away (I have thrown away desserts many times), give it away, or tomorrow is Christmas Eve and someone will be very excited about finding it. Throwing it away is not an option, it's too yummy. Giving it away is tough when it's one single piece of pie. Leaving it in the frig is very dangerous. My brain will figure out what to do...I will let you know. (I called my neighbor friend over and we visited while she ate my pie.)

Today is busy with a few last minute things to do. Grocery shop, put clean sheets on the beds, finish cards to my kids, (I only send cards to my family) and make sure my house is ready for Christmas....and here I am sitting in my bathrobe and writing at 11 am. Well, that's me, when I feel the writer in me coming out, it's best to stop what I am doing and write. It feels superb! By the way, sending cards out after Christmas is a life-long habit, and that's alright. It's the sentiment for a wonderful Christmas and Happy and Healthy New Year that are important. Christmas Eve morning I am making delicious butter cookies for Christmas Eve service at my church.

My wish is that all of you have a wonderful December year end, with family and friends. Whether you are Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, or no religious beliefs, I wish you a healthy, happy, and prosperous 2016! Be kind, be loving, and we can all give the gift of a smile every day. That one simple gift may save someone's life.

God bless us everyone!    With love, Aleta

"When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive, to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love."   Marcus Aurelius  -  Roman Emperor 100 AD


Wednesday, December 16, 2015

MY ADVENTURE TODAY!!

Today has been the craziest day! Phone lines on and off for hours, both mobile and landline. Wifi sketchy as well. On top of that, I am without my car and wondering how am I going to hear from the mechanic. Also the bill could total hundreds of dollars, and I am wondering what the news will be, $500 or $600 or? An engine light kept coming on, and periodically my Mini sounded terrible, like it was missing. Confession....I was a dingbat too, putting in coolant when I was supposed to use window washer fluid, ugh! The good news is it was only about 1/2 a cup. The bad news is my service provider at the Mini dealership said "Ohhh, that's not good...I will have to let you know what the charge will be." We never want to hear our mechanic say "Ohhh, that's not good". Looking on the bright side, it's better than hearing our doctor say "Oops, that's not good"!

No, the crazy day isn't over quite yet, but it does get better. My landline began to show signs of improving and I received a call from Mini. (I can't make outside calls, but the mechanic was able to call me, weird.) He has good news for me, the check engine light was verified to be the high pressure fuel pump, and it came under some federal law and is covered under...blah blah blah. Listening to the voice mail 3 times didn't really help me understand why the light came on. But it doesn't matter, because my charge was $00, and I was happy. They changed the oil and checked all the fluids, as they do on a regular service appointment. You want to know about the coolant in the window washer thing-a-ma-bob? The mechanic said it wasn't enough to cause problems and I could simply fill it up with washer fluid. I hope he is right.  Just because the lettering is blue like the washer fluid, doesn't mean I don't have to R.E.A.D.

There is more...and it gets even better, though I still wasn't thinking clearly. It was about 2:30 and they close at 6. Being independent and not wanting to bother a friend for a ride (45 minute drive minimum without traffic, and there is never no traffic in Silicon Valley), I get on the web to see the bus schedule (a 10 minute walk). Mind you, I am not sure what the next step will be once I get over the hill. Having gathered my coat, cell phone (No Service), and purse, I step outside and have to ask my 13 year old neighbor boy for change for the bus, having only large bills. Walking, half running I start praying "Please God let me see someone I know for a ride". Right then I see my neighbor, John, (lucky he remembers me from walking my dog, Tashi), being in the next block we weren't exactly running into each other very often. I walk up to his car and say hello, is he headed down the hill. Yes, he can take me to my bus stop, but he isn't going south but going north. That was okay because at least I will make the bus.

Each car that approached the corner, I wondered if I knew them. In about 5 minutes my bus will come and I will be on my way, on my poorly thought out plan. (You know what I am saying to myself, right?) All of a sudden I see my neighbor, George, in his Corvette, and not being quiet or shy, I walk toward him and start waving my arm trying to catch his attention. He almost got away, and then he caught sight of me. And yes, he was going south, not over the hill, but this next leg of my trip would be with George. George is a techy personality, just the friend I need sometimes to help me think things through. He listened to my dilemma, and he was not sure I would make it to Mini with rush hour traffic, using public transportation. The more he asked questions, the more I realized tomorrow was a better day to pick up my car. Starting first thing in the morning would ensure getting there, and I would miss that awful afternoon traffic. Besides that, he used to work in Silicon Valley, and told me what public transits to use. He also mentioned how expensive a cab would be also.

Apparently his cell service was fine, and he answered a call...bad boy. A good call for me though, because now he has to return home. In his distraction...me...he forgot to stop by someones house. Now I not only get personalized counseling on how to pick up my car in the comfort of a sleek Corvette, I also get a ride all the way back to my house, and I thanked him profusely.

If you are a regular reader of this blog, do you now see why I always say 'I am so blessed'? George was my angel today, in more ways than one. When I told him so, he just smiled in a gentlemanly way, with his soft spoken manner. And no, he is not single, I know some of you are wondering that, so I will just put it out there.

Tomorrow morning at 10:45 I have an appointment at my house, and afterwards he will be heading over the hill, and guess who will be his guest? Won't it be interesting to see if he needs to go down to Silicon Valley, his other office location. Either way my adventure will be more thought out and less stressful tomorrow. I am so blessed!!

Thank you, good night and God Bless!   Aleta

"May He give you the desires of your heart and make all your plans succeed."  Psalm 20:4

"Let me encourage you to get up every day and focus on what you do have in life. Be thankful for the blessings of the little things, even when you don't get what you expect."  Victoria Osteen - pastor and author






Monday, December 7, 2015

DO YOU LET MUSIC INTO YOUR SOUL?

Music moves my soul. It brings me to tears and reaches my deepest inner being. Some music brings out the dancer in me where I can't hold still, whether it's my feet tapping or my hips moving. Then there is another type of music that gets my full attention, my ears hear it, my eyes see it, but my heart feels it. My body doesn't move, but I sit transfixed, listening to every beat, feeling every spoken word.

Tonight I am watching the recorded special Frank Sinatra's 100th birthday- Grammy Concert. Frank Sinatra not only had a beautiful voice, "he sang a song he loved like he meant it, like every word was part of his story". This is the best music show I have ever seen and it's only half over. Harry Connick Jr., Seth MacFarlane, Tony Bennet, Garth Brooks, John Legend, so many I can't even begin to mention all of them. Seth MacFarlane was amazing, smooth as silk voice. Did I mention Alicia Keys? Never having seen her before, she blew me away. Heartfelt, sexy, and she meant every word she sang. One of the most soulful female singers I have ever heard. She sang I've Got A Crush On You, a Sinatra favorite. It took my breath away. Usher sang That's Life, and it was fabulous. The last time Sinatra performed in public he sang The Best Is Yet To Come, and Adam Levine sang it beautifully.

However, they saved the best for last.... Lady Gaga sang New York New York. She came out in a tuxedo, with hair pulled up under a vintage hat, like Sinatra wore. She sang beautifully, moved gracefully, and she drew you in magnificently. The show was filled with all the songs Frank Sinatra made famous. There were photos from over 75 years ago, short video clips of him performing, and many, many great singers today paid him tribute. An excellent music concert I hope you got to see, or will get to see in the future. I have it on my DVR and if you are in the neighborhood, we can watch it together.

Thank you, good night and God Bless!   Aleta

"Singers like Frank Sinatra and myself, we interpret the songs we like. Not unlike a Shakespearean actor that goes back to the greatest words ever written, we go back to the greatest songs and bring about our own interpretation of them."   Harry Connick Jr. - actor and singer