I am back from visiting my kids and grand daughter, and had a wonderful visit. Rosalie turned one this month. Besides being very happy and always smiling, she is fun to play with. Our favorite thing to do is crawl on the floor playing peek-a-boo. We chase each other around the couch and then she will stop and peek around the edge of the couch. We both break out in hysterics, but then she will also look under the couch to see exactly where I am - such a smart little girl! Then we start all over again in the other direction! I love being a grandma!!
Facebook was full of several wonderful posts today. My friend Terri posted a quote and I apologize for not knowing the author, I believe the author is Italian.
"You can bend me, but you will NOT break me....I am stronger than you think, and I NEVER give in or give up."
What does that mean to me? It means I will stand up for myself, I will always step in and help someone when I see the need. I do not like injustice, cheating, lying, unfairness, or unkindness. Do I get emotional and shed tears? Of course I do, because I am passionate and unafraid to show my true self. Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses. Be willing to learn and grow and change - yes, I say that often. "You will not break me...." This means I will not change who I am under pressure. I am woman....I am soft on the outside, and I hope always kind and considerate. However, I have been known to get in the middle of a scuffle, and make sure everyone is treated fairly.
It's so important to be true to ourselves. Otherwise, how can we look into the mirror? Thinking things through and patience is key. History is ripe with people who persevered. Look at Thomas Edison and the light bulb....over 1,000 attempts, and he thought "I just haven't found the key yet". And then there is Abraham Lincoln. He lost the love of his life in his younger years, and his political career is filled with defeat after defeat....for decades. Then of course he became our 16th president. One of my favorite presidents.
We can all be stronger in the little everyday things we do. To reiterate - patience, perseverance, and thinking!! Nothing important comes easily. Anything worthwhile takes work, lots of hard work, and
W A I T I N G!!
Thank you, good night, and God Bless!! Aleta
"Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle." Napoleon Hill - American author
Thursday, July 23, 2015
Thursday, July 16, 2015
Oops!! I forgot to write that I am visiting my kids and grand daughter in the Midwest now! Unfortunately, I got a cold from the nasty re-cycled airplane air. The good news is I didn't make anyone else sick. But I feel lousy and low energy.
We had a great birthday party for Rosalie and lots of nice family time. I love seeing my kids and always glad to be back in my own bed - home sweet home!!
We had a great birthday party for Rosalie and lots of nice family time. I love seeing my kids and always glad to be back in my own bed - home sweet home!!
Thursday, July 9, 2015
WHY IS LOVE SO TOUGH ON US?
Why does love hurt so much? (This may be a girlfriend post :-) I am speaking from a theoretical, and personal point of view. Sometimes we want to share our feelings but it can be confusing. In the end we have to go through it alone. Figure it all out on our own, no matter how much a friend thinks she sees it clearly. Women sometimes want to talk about a relationship with a friend. Yet, the opinions aren't always welcome. So I really don't know why we continue doing it. There are probably several different reasons....we want some help figuring things out, we like to share our secrets with that special friend, we can't wait to tell her, and we are excited and just love to talk about all the new (personal) gossip.
One thing is certain - let's hope we can learn from our mistakes. Honestly, I hope that I have learned from a recent mistake. A few months ago, I met a wonderful man who is smart, tons of energy, affectionate, honest, the list is long. Though the other list is shorter, it is extremely important. And I chose to ignore the signs....signs that were there at the beginning. A little voice that some how knew something was missing. I was always trying to understand him, yet he didn't seem to want to know me as well as I wanted to know him. I kept saying "he is a logical social style and I am an expressive". That was my reasoning for letting it go so long. The fact that logical, scientist types don't express much is true. But I was hoping and wishing and not thinking clearly.
If we have to try that hard then something is deeply wrong. One thing I know for sure: we have to be HAPPY with ourselves! I want to wake up each morning knowing that I am learning and growing and changing, and always becoming the best "Me" I can be. Ultimately, it is our own self worth that means the most. When we decide to share life with someone, we need to be at our best, independent, and strong self. We can't count on the other person to make us happy. We are setting ourselves up for disappointment and failure.
This post turned into a different, very personal writing. Expressing myself in prose is very therapeutic for me. But I also hope my story helps others. After all we have a lot in common - we are humans, and there are two types, as I once told my 3 sons when they were small - boys and girls! It's funny how we can complicate life. And then we have the ability to learn and grow and change!
Thank you, good night and God Bless! Aleta
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." Victor Frankl- Austrian Psychiatrist, and Holocaust survivor
One thing is certain - let's hope we can learn from our mistakes. Honestly, I hope that I have learned from a recent mistake. A few months ago, I met a wonderful man who is smart, tons of energy, affectionate, honest, the list is long. Though the other list is shorter, it is extremely important. And I chose to ignore the signs....signs that were there at the beginning. A little voice that some how knew something was missing. I was always trying to understand him, yet he didn't seem to want to know me as well as I wanted to know him. I kept saying "he is a logical social style and I am an expressive". That was my reasoning for letting it go so long. The fact that logical, scientist types don't express much is true. But I was hoping and wishing and not thinking clearly.
If we have to try that hard then something is deeply wrong. One thing I know for sure: we have to be HAPPY with ourselves! I want to wake up each morning knowing that I am learning and growing and changing, and always becoming the best "Me" I can be. Ultimately, it is our own self worth that means the most. When we decide to share life with someone, we need to be at our best, independent, and strong self. We can't count on the other person to make us happy. We are setting ourselves up for disappointment and failure.
This post turned into a different, very personal writing. Expressing myself in prose is very therapeutic for me. But I also hope my story helps others. After all we have a lot in common - we are humans, and there are two types, as I once told my 3 sons when they were small - boys and girls! It's funny how we can complicate life. And then we have the ability to learn and grow and change!
Thank you, good night and God Bless! Aleta
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." Victor Frankl- Austrian Psychiatrist, and Holocaust survivor
Tuesday, July 7, 2015
LEARNING FROM MY MISTAKES
I problem solve when I lay my head down to sleep. Sometimes it's figuring something out, and then other times it's rehashing the day, which can be annoying and unproductive. But I have solved many problems and I guess that's why I keep doing it. The chief motivation is learning from my mistakes. To learn and grow and change is extremely important. And then waking up in the morning knowing exactly what to do is rewarding. I have woken up knowing an apology was due a friend. Then my thoughts won't be quiet until I apologize and clear the air. It may not be anything to the other person, but if my thoughts are consumed with it, I have to handle it.
Of course, there have been numerous times when I needed to seriously apologize for something. No matter how much I may dread a possible confrontation, an apology is the only solution. It's the only thing that will quiet my thoughts. Ultimately it's the one solution that makes sense to me. Apologies strengthen friendships and shows others that we care. They make us accountable for our actions, and that in itself, gives us the confidence to do it again. I feel relieved afterwards, because though it was uncomfortable, I can now live with myself.
This writing did not come easily today. In fact, I sat here thinking and writing and deleting for a very long time. And no, I did not have an apology to make recently. Sometimes a friend or family member will ask me if I was writing about such and such. Today was simply one thought, and one sentence growing into another thought, etc.
Thank you, good night and God Bless! Aleta
"Worry is the interest paid by those who borrow trouble." George Washington
Of course, there have been numerous times when I needed to seriously apologize for something. No matter how much I may dread a possible confrontation, an apology is the only solution. It's the only thing that will quiet my thoughts. Ultimately it's the one solution that makes sense to me. Apologies strengthen friendships and shows others that we care. They make us accountable for our actions, and that in itself, gives us the confidence to do it again. I feel relieved afterwards, because though it was uncomfortable, I can now live with myself.
This writing did not come easily today. In fact, I sat here thinking and writing and deleting for a very long time. And no, I did not have an apology to make recently. Sometimes a friend or family member will ask me if I was writing about such and such. Today was simply one thought, and one sentence growing into another thought, etc.
Thank you, good night and God Bless! Aleta
"Worry is the interest paid by those who borrow trouble." George Washington
RETRACTION
Retraction: Recently I had a follow- up visit with the vascular surgeon who recommended my compression stockings. He stressed that only the full stockings be worn, not the ones that go from the ankle up to the knee. I had gotten the wrong information from someone in his office.
We risk swelling in the ankles. I see many people wearing the shorter style. However, if you have any ankle swelling, or problematic veins, please see a vascular doctor.
I realize it is tough to were these in hot weather, but I have heard nothing but good reports when people are on their feet all day for work.
Thank you! Aleta
We risk swelling in the ankles. I see many people wearing the shorter style. However, if you have any ankle swelling, or problematic veins, please see a vascular doctor.
I realize it is tough to were these in hot weather, but I have heard nothing but good reports when people are on their feet all day for work.
Thank you! Aleta
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
FAILURE IS NEVER FINAL UNLESS IT'S THE LAST TIME YOU'RE GOING TO TRY!
The above title is a quote from an anonymous author. I have not been able to substantiate the original author. This afternoon I was looking through my notebook of writing ideas. And I kept running across some of my favorite quotes. I sure hope my readers don't skip the end of my posts. Because I spend a lot of time choosing the quotes, and try hard to make sure they pertain to my subject matter. I love love love quotes, and hope to impart some of that love, and education to my readers! Give me a quote that means something to me and I can write about it. They are important to me, they move me. Sometimes they can take my breath away.
"The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination." Author Albert Einstein. When I first read that some years ago, it made me feel smarter, and gave me a huge boost of confidence. Remember my parents thought I wasn't very bright. They did not know about learning disabilities in the '50's. Albert Einstein was thought to be retarded by the age of 5 because he wasn't speaking yet. Just imagine what we could accomplish if we didn't listen to nay-sayers. Or didn't listen to our well-meaning parents. But instead when we thought about something we wanted to do, we just went ahead and did it! That is called imagination, and passion, and perseverance, and thinking things through. Every great person in history has had to go through tons of adversity from jealous co-workers, negative family members, and people that simply did not understand their dream. Those negative people certainly didn't have the knowledge to understand their field. Scientists say we only use about 10% of our brain. But I have read it might be as little as 3-4%. Studies have shown that we can increase our grey matter, and increase our intelligence. But it all starts with a good positive attitude about "who we think we are"!
"It's not what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you." Author Epictetus, Greek Philosopher. Wow! This is important for all of us. This is all about attitude, a good or bad attitude will make or break us. #%$@ happens to everyone! Whether it's health issues, or job, or our family members, or negative friends. I am not saying tough it out and get over it. This is a tough one because life is always a struggle. And hurt feelings can last a life time, if we let them. The more life I live, the more I admire the strength I see in people. Some people can just focus on what's in front of them, and then deal with the "problem" at the end of their day. That is tough for emotional people like me. I have learned over the last several years to focus on what is right in front of me. I learned this the hard way. Only 7% of what we worry about actually comes to fruition. Either the problem will go away and never happen, or it will still be there when we get home. Falling apart emotionally never helps any situation, it makes things more difficult and we don't think clearly.
Thank you, good night and God Bless! Aleta
"There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self." Aldous Huxley - English writer and philosopher, author of "Brave New World".
"The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination." Author Albert Einstein. When I first read that some years ago, it made me feel smarter, and gave me a huge boost of confidence. Remember my parents thought I wasn't very bright. They did not know about learning disabilities in the '50's. Albert Einstein was thought to be retarded by the age of 5 because he wasn't speaking yet. Just imagine what we could accomplish if we didn't listen to nay-sayers. Or didn't listen to our well-meaning parents. But instead when we thought about something we wanted to do, we just went ahead and did it! That is called imagination, and passion, and perseverance, and thinking things through. Every great person in history has had to go through tons of adversity from jealous co-workers, negative family members, and people that simply did not understand their dream. Those negative people certainly didn't have the knowledge to understand their field. Scientists say we only use about 10% of our brain. But I have read it might be as little as 3-4%. Studies have shown that we can increase our grey matter, and increase our intelligence. But it all starts with a good positive attitude about "who we think we are"!
"It's not what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you." Author Epictetus, Greek Philosopher. Wow! This is important for all of us. This is all about attitude, a good or bad attitude will make or break us. #%$@ happens to everyone! Whether it's health issues, or job, or our family members, or negative friends. I am not saying tough it out and get over it. This is a tough one because life is always a struggle. And hurt feelings can last a life time, if we let them. The more life I live, the more I admire the strength I see in people. Some people can just focus on what's in front of them, and then deal with the "problem" at the end of their day. That is tough for emotional people like me. I have learned over the last several years to focus on what is right in front of me. I learned this the hard way. Only 7% of what we worry about actually comes to fruition. Either the problem will go away and never happen, or it will still be there when we get home. Falling apart emotionally never helps any situation, it makes things more difficult and we don't think clearly.
Thank you, good night and God Bless! Aleta
"There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self." Aldous Huxley - English writer and philosopher, author of "Brave New World".
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