Not sure what to write, I looked at my notebook where I jot down ideas and thoughts. On February 8th, my favorite show CBS Sunday Morning, aired a great segment with Barry Mann and Cynthia Weil. A couple married for 55 years, who co-wrote famous song's from the 1960's, 70's, and 80's. They are extremely talented people, having met at age 20, fell in love, married, and then wrote some of our all-time best 1960 hits. At the end of the interview, Mann said "I can honestly say I love Cynthia more now than I have ever loved her". You could see the love and respect they have for each other during the entire interview - love that many of us only dream of!
Some of their songs everyone will remember: On Broadway, Blame It On The Bossa Nova, You Lost That Lov'n Feeling, We Gotta Get Out Of This Place, by The Animals, (anti-Vietnam War song), Here You Come Again (Dolly Parton), Just Once, (You're My) Soul and Inspiration and Somewhere Out There. To name just a few. Barry Mann played bits from some of their songs through out the interview. They are 75 and so talented....he played the piano, and sang with such panache!
In 2010 they were inducted in the Rock and Roll Hall Of Fame. They have not stopped, they can add to their repertoire photography for him, and she recently wrote a novel. How any two people could have so much talent is beyond me. Mid 70's, and they look fabulous (this is where money comes in handy), and still going strong doing what they love. I have so much respect for people who know what they want, don't listen to the nay-sayers, but just keep the creative juices flowing.
The 60's Oldies But Goodies is my favorite all time music. Big Band music is my favorite to dance to, but 60's music makes me happy like nothing else....it stirs my soul like no other music!
As a side note, I think I'll have to make sure my kids have all my favorite Oldies but Goodies for me, when I get to be an Oldie But Goodie myself! Maybe I can sit back and listen and bounce my feet around and move my shoulders and embarrass them...it's called pay-back!
Same time same place, I'll be back on Monday. Thank you and God Bless! Aleta
"Imagine all the people living life in peace. You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one. I hope some day you'll join us, and the world will be as one." John Lennon
Friday, February 27, 2015
Thursday, February 26, 2015
WE HAVE ALL OVER-COME SOMETHING DIFFICULT
Yesterdays post was written at my kids home in the valley. I am back at my home now and pretty tired - lots of excitement the last two days. I had my first date from the online dating site! He was a gentleman, we met at a restaurant for lunch, and talked for a couple of hours. We got along, laughed a little bit, and the conversation was pretty natural. He even brought a beautiful bouquet of flowers for me. Yes, we will see each other again, sometime. That's all you get now!
The problem for me with dating is I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I was never good at it in my 20's, (too sensitive) but I will have to get better at it now. Because I believe with all this 'wisdom' I always talk about - ha ha - I should be able to find my knight in shining armor. For me it's important to have a soul mate, best friend, lover and husband. I want all of it - romance, flowers, love, friendship, chocolate, love notes on my pillow, stimulating conversation - all of it! Honestly, I would rather be alone than make a mistake and be unhappy. Because I know I can be alone now, with me.
I am not afraid to dream, I have always been a dreamer, with a big imagination. It has helped me pursue my writing and creative artsy side. When I am making something, whether it's writing, or cards with my photos, or videography, I go away. It is therapy and I don't think about anything else. It is very relaxing and fulfilling. I am doing something I love and creating something for others to enjoy. For that time, my world is quiet and my self-talk is quiet. My self-talk was not always good, very negative and destructive.
This is new for me, brand new. I feel very blessed to have come to a point that I am comfortable with myself. More self confident than I ever imagined and my creative side is surfacing - writing and videos, and my Mac. This is huge! This is coming from a little 7 year old girl who over-heard her mother and teacher have a talk about her - Me. I heard the teacher say (paraphrased) I was not doing very well, not keeping up. What I heard was I wasn't very smart and that was that. Until my thirties I believed them. Then I went on a quest - I was hungry to learn - for me and no one else!
Why is this important? Why talk about this? Most people have unbelievably sad things happen to them, and sometimes they don't recover from them. I am not the only person that this has happened to. And some have had far worse. But for some reason I feel compelled to write about these things. If we can pick up a book, or many books, or find a friend to talk with, or find some solace in someone's story that can help us.Why not reach out and help? That is my mission.
Thank you and God Bless! Aleta
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou
The problem for me with dating is I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I was never good at it in my 20's, (too sensitive) but I will have to get better at it now. Because I believe with all this 'wisdom' I always talk about - ha ha - I should be able to find my knight in shining armor. For me it's important to have a soul mate, best friend, lover and husband. I want all of it - romance, flowers, love, friendship, chocolate, love notes on my pillow, stimulating conversation - all of it! Honestly, I would rather be alone than make a mistake and be unhappy. Because I know I can be alone now, with me.
I am not afraid to dream, I have always been a dreamer, with a big imagination. It has helped me pursue my writing and creative artsy side. When I am making something, whether it's writing, or cards with my photos, or videography, I go away. It is therapy and I don't think about anything else. It is very relaxing and fulfilling. I am doing something I love and creating something for others to enjoy. For that time, my world is quiet and my self-talk is quiet. My self-talk was not always good, very negative and destructive.
This is new for me, brand new. I feel very blessed to have come to a point that I am comfortable with myself. More self confident than I ever imagined and my creative side is surfacing - writing and videos, and my Mac. This is huge! This is coming from a little 7 year old girl who over-heard her mother and teacher have a talk about her - Me. I heard the teacher say (paraphrased) I was not doing very well, not keeping up. What I heard was I wasn't very smart and that was that. Until my thirties I believed them. Then I went on a quest - I was hungry to learn - for me and no one else!
Why is this important? Why talk about this? Most people have unbelievably sad things happen to them, and sometimes they don't recover from them. I am not the only person that this has happened to. And some have had far worse. But for some reason I feel compelled to write about these things. If we can pick up a book, or many books, or find a friend to talk with, or find some solace in someone's story that can help us.Why not reach out and help? That is my mission.
Thank you and God Bless! Aleta
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou
Wednesday, February 25, 2015
WITH AGE COMES WISDOM - AGING STILL SUCKS!
That old saying is absolutely true. Now that I am in my 60's, the truth is revealed. I love love love the wisdom I have gained. But first I have to apologize for using that nasty s... word. I detest it and never use it. But I must admit for my title, it is an eye catcher, and may even make some people chuckle. Author's license again, and very useful. That is why writing appeals to me so much. We can write to our hearts content. But if it is appealing, and has something of value, we can share with others. I hope to get to that point, where my words mean something to others.
I digressed - age and wisdom - that is on my mind today. These next two days I will be visiting my son and daughter-in-law. On my drive here, I got excited thinking about the things I have learned - mostly about people, relationships, my intuitions, trivial things I am interested in, business related things, etc, etc. As a 30- something, I became interested in personal growth. My 2-3 years of college was a yawner for me. I preferred reading books that I chose, subjects that appealed to me.
If you read my post from a few days ago, you will know this online dating started out horribly for me (in the first few days). A man pretending to be someone he was not, with obvious ulterior motives, had two profiles to stalk his victims. (At least two, who knows.) No more air time for that scoundrel, clearly. We need to pay attention to our intuitions, always. I know people really well. We all have our strengths and our weaknesses. This is a strength of mine and I love it. And personality styles I wrote about recently, they are fun to understand. Because it helps us to understand why the people we work with, or our spouse, or children, do what they do. And why we are the way we are - and we can learn to love being who we are.
Why is this a topic today? Because as I was driving here, I was laughing thinking about my future conversations with the dates I will have. They will be nothing like the dates I had as a 23 year old -
not even close! When you get to this age and you know what you want in a spouse, you won't settle for anything less. At least I certainly am not. After reading many profiles of the men I was checking out, they all have the same idea. Getting the woman of their dreams. Online dating is very awkward, it's not natural, and you have to learn how it works. You have to get out of your comfort zone. My people skills will come in handy, I am not shy, as you have guessed. It is hilarious to me thinking about the information I want to know. Funnier yet, is thinking how will it surface?
Anyway, enough of that. I am blessed to have 6 kids (including my 3 daughters-in-law) and an adorable 7 month old grand daughter. I value family time, so I will close.
Thank you and God Bless! Aleta
"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go." Dr. Seuss
I digressed - age and wisdom - that is on my mind today. These next two days I will be visiting my son and daughter-in-law. On my drive here, I got excited thinking about the things I have learned - mostly about people, relationships, my intuitions, trivial things I am interested in, business related things, etc, etc. As a 30- something, I became interested in personal growth. My 2-3 years of college was a yawner for me. I preferred reading books that I chose, subjects that appealed to me.
If you read my post from a few days ago, you will know this online dating started out horribly for me (in the first few days). A man pretending to be someone he was not, with obvious ulterior motives, had two profiles to stalk his victims. (At least two, who knows.) No more air time for that scoundrel, clearly. We need to pay attention to our intuitions, always. I know people really well. We all have our strengths and our weaknesses. This is a strength of mine and I love it. And personality styles I wrote about recently, they are fun to understand. Because it helps us to understand why the people we work with, or our spouse, or children, do what they do. And why we are the way we are - and we can learn to love being who we are.
Why is this a topic today? Because as I was driving here, I was laughing thinking about my future conversations with the dates I will have. They will be nothing like the dates I had as a 23 year old -
not even close! When you get to this age and you know what you want in a spouse, you won't settle for anything less. At least I certainly am not. After reading many profiles of the men I was checking out, they all have the same idea. Getting the woman of their dreams. Online dating is very awkward, it's not natural, and you have to learn how it works. You have to get out of your comfort zone. My people skills will come in handy, I am not shy, as you have guessed. It is hilarious to me thinking about the information I want to know. Funnier yet, is thinking how will it surface?
Anyway, enough of that. I am blessed to have 6 kids (including my 3 daughters-in-law) and an adorable 7 month old grand daughter. I value family time, so I will close.
Thank you and God Bless! Aleta
"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go." Dr. Seuss
Tuesday, February 24, 2015
FRIENDS, FOOD, AND FUN
The music and dancing last Friday night was great. Lots of people to make it fun, yet not over-crowded. My two friends and I had a blast dancing. We ran into people we know and got to meet new people. It was a friendly crowd, which is a nice change from the occasional stuffy atmosphere you find in some clubs. Joyanova and his musicians were superb. Gerry Bassermann divides his time between his music and his 'day job', North American director of a software company. Clearly he is both left and right-brained - I admire that.
Last week my friend Julie took me to a Vietnamese restaurant for a typical Vietnamese soup, Pho Do. The restaurant with the same name, is located in Tanforan shopping center, San Bruno. They serve it in a huge bowl, big enough for 3 people. The soup has a clear broth and you get to choose a meat. The aroma was lovely and mild with chopped green onions, slices of chicken breast, and vermicelli style Vietnamese noodles. What made the lunch fun were the little bowls they put in the middle of our table filled with veggies, all beautifully chopped: jalapeños, fresh mint, lime slices, and a larger bowl with bean sprouts. This was my first time eating in a Vietnamese restaurant and I would go back for this soup. It was delicious, light with fresh veggies you get to choose.
Perhaps the best part of my weekend was lunch with girlfriends. OMG!! We laughed and talked and shared stories and got caught up on each of our lives....and then we laughed some more. The restaurant specializes in beer, Half Moon Bay Brewery, in the harbor. Even though I am not a true beer drinker, I like to order their little shots of three different types of beer - that's about all I can drink. I have always said I am a cheap date! Anyway, I had forgotten how good it feels to spend time with girlfriends, and laugh, and not have any time constraints. The weather was mild, 60 degrees, and we had a nice hour walk before the restaurant. I tasted my first martini- and last. Nasty! One friend wanted a sweet version made with grapefruit, and the other was a traditional martini. Neither was appealing to me. My drink of preference is almost always red wine- if I drink at all. But I chose beer to go with my fish fajitas, and they were delicious. Life is way too short not to slow down and spend time with good friends, whether you are male or female, young or old. I am happy to say we will be doing this again soon, maybe even making it a habit.
My online dating experience has been a tough one, as I posted several days ago. Suffice to say, I am learning what not to do. It will always be an emotional roller coaster. Three profiles have been closed, two of them were the same guy. We have to be vigilant about our safety.
Thank you and God Bless! Aleta
"Work like you don't need the money, Love like you've never been hurt, Dance like no one's watching." Satchel Paige
1906 - 1982 A baseball legend from the early days of baseball. Joe DiMaggio said "Paige was the best pitcher he had ever faced." Wikipedia
ps This quote caught my attention over twenty years ago, and it's still a favorite today. Read Wikipedia on the entire life of this charismatic and high spirited character - wonderful!
Last week my friend Julie took me to a Vietnamese restaurant for a typical Vietnamese soup, Pho Do. The restaurant with the same name, is located in Tanforan shopping center, San Bruno. They serve it in a huge bowl, big enough for 3 people. The soup has a clear broth and you get to choose a meat. The aroma was lovely and mild with chopped green onions, slices of chicken breast, and vermicelli style Vietnamese noodles. What made the lunch fun were the little bowls they put in the middle of our table filled with veggies, all beautifully chopped: jalapeños, fresh mint, lime slices, and a larger bowl with bean sprouts. This was my first time eating in a Vietnamese restaurant and I would go back for this soup. It was delicious, light with fresh veggies you get to choose.
Perhaps the best part of my weekend was lunch with girlfriends. OMG!! We laughed and talked and shared stories and got caught up on each of our lives....and then we laughed some more. The restaurant specializes in beer, Half Moon Bay Brewery, in the harbor. Even though I am not a true beer drinker, I like to order their little shots of three different types of beer - that's about all I can drink. I have always said I am a cheap date! Anyway, I had forgotten how good it feels to spend time with girlfriends, and laugh, and not have any time constraints. The weather was mild, 60 degrees, and we had a nice hour walk before the restaurant. I tasted my first martini- and last. Nasty! One friend wanted a sweet version made with grapefruit, and the other was a traditional martini. Neither was appealing to me. My drink of preference is almost always red wine- if I drink at all. But I chose beer to go with my fish fajitas, and they were delicious. Life is way too short not to slow down and spend time with good friends, whether you are male or female, young or old. I am happy to say we will be doing this again soon, maybe even making it a habit.
My online dating experience has been a tough one, as I posted several days ago. Suffice to say, I am learning what not to do. It will always be an emotional roller coaster. Three profiles have been closed, two of them were the same guy. We have to be vigilant about our safety.
Thank you and God Bless! Aleta
"Work like you don't need the money, Love like you've never been hurt, Dance like no one's watching." Satchel Paige
1906 - 1982 A baseball legend from the early days of baseball. Joe DiMaggio said "Paige was the best pitcher he had ever faced." Wikipedia
ps This quote caught my attention over twenty years ago, and it's still a favorite today. Read Wikipedia on the entire life of this charismatic and high spirited character - wonderful!
Sunday, February 22, 2015
BLOGGING - WHY DO WE LOVE IT?
Why is blogging getting popular? It's definitely ease of using the internet, also perhaps our own narcissism, to get information out there, and the need to write to an audience. I almost forgot, it is most definitely financial, as well. My own reason is to just write. Writing has been brewing inside me for over twenty five years. It was a romantic idea I had sitting at a typewriter (yes, that antique), in a quiet studio above a house, windows all around, and lots of greenery outside. I am not in a room like that right now, but would not be surprised if it did happen one day. Be careful what you dream! This writing picture was the earliest memory I have thinking about being a writer. I have no desire to write fiction, only non-fiction. I read an article from Forbes about how to create a blog and get the attention to become popular. I don't think that pertains to me at this moment.
I am not sure what my writing will lead to. But the fact remains, I am grateful to wake up each morning excited to have something to say, and put pen to paper, as the old saying goes.
As I always say, I am the mom, the teacher and the philosopher. It is important for each of us to share our wisdom with others, especially young people. And that is what I love doing- thinking about what is on my mind, and sharing with others what I have learned. It will never get old for me to mention how blessed I have been over my life. That attitude has opened me up to treasures like friendships and opportunities to learn.
One treasure was taking a risk, and it turned into a great three week trip to Italy. That first week I thought I was crazy to go to a small town, alone, not knowing anyone, and no easy transportation to get around (prohibitive costs). But it forced me to write everyday, and that was my savior. Even if I did not do any sight seeing in a day, I had a task to complete, and that was to write every day about my experiences. The rest of the time I acted like a local and shopped, sat in a cafe drinking espresso, writing, walked for miles, and made new friends. I have to mention I became good friends with Terri, the manager of the B&B. The family that owned the B&B were also very kind and took us places. Had I not taken a risk and booked the three week trip, I would not be writing today. I would not have the courage to open my heart to the world and share my personal feelings. Ten seconds of boldness each day, or each week, will give us untold treasures.
God bless you! Aleta
"Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same." - author Og Mandino
I am not sure what my writing will lead to. But the fact remains, I am grateful to wake up each morning excited to have something to say, and put pen to paper, as the old saying goes.
As I always say, I am the mom, the teacher and the philosopher. It is important for each of us to share our wisdom with others, especially young people. And that is what I love doing- thinking about what is on my mind, and sharing with others what I have learned. It will never get old for me to mention how blessed I have been over my life. That attitude has opened me up to treasures like friendships and opportunities to learn.
One treasure was taking a risk, and it turned into a great three week trip to Italy. That first week I thought I was crazy to go to a small town, alone, not knowing anyone, and no easy transportation to get around (prohibitive costs). But it forced me to write everyday, and that was my savior. Even if I did not do any sight seeing in a day, I had a task to complete, and that was to write every day about my experiences. The rest of the time I acted like a local and shopped, sat in a cafe drinking espresso, writing, walked for miles, and made new friends. I have to mention I became good friends with Terri, the manager of the B&B. The family that owned the B&B were also very kind and took us places. Had I not taken a risk and booked the three week trip, I would not be writing today. I would not have the courage to open my heart to the world and share my personal feelings. Ten seconds of boldness each day, or each week, will give us untold treasures.
God bless you! Aleta
"Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same." - author Og Mandino
Friday, February 20, 2015
DANCING AND MUSIC- WHAT COULD BE BETTER
Today is Friday and I am going to hear music and dance, one of my favorite things to do in the whole world!! I can dance anywhere, anytime, with whomever, as long as he is a good leader- and the music has to move my soul. I dance in my house all the time, mostly to Big Band music, but really any great music. I can even dance while sitting. It's all about sexy shoulder movement, a little leg and feet movement, and of course you've gotta have rhythm!!
A night of samba, jazz, and Latin tunes (and it's local). I am going with two friends and we hope we get to dance with some men. A lot of the time the dance parties are mostly couples. But we will dance together if need be. Either way, it's time for decisions on the wardrobe - dress or skirt, lots of glitz, sparkly eye shadow, and which dance shoes to wear! Gerry Bassermann, (Joyanova his band name) is the lead singer and guitarist. He has a beautiful voice and plays a variety of music. We met at a local farmers market last year and he kindly put me on his email list.
This is all she wrote, folks! Today is one of those short stories I mentioned to you. Also, I have decided I will see if I like posting Monday-Friday, rather than 7 days a week. Same time same place, see you on Monday.
Thanks and God bless! Aleta
"Be yourself, who else is better qualified?"
A night of samba, jazz, and Latin tunes (and it's local). I am going with two friends and we hope we get to dance with some men. A lot of the time the dance parties are mostly couples. But we will dance together if need be. Either way, it's time for decisions on the wardrobe - dress or skirt, lots of glitz, sparkly eye shadow, and which dance shoes to wear! Gerry Bassermann, (Joyanova his band name) is the lead singer and guitarist. He has a beautiful voice and plays a variety of music. We met at a local farmers market last year and he kindly put me on his email list.
This is all she wrote, folks! Today is one of those short stories I mentioned to you. Also, I have decided I will see if I like posting Monday-Friday, rather than 7 days a week. Same time same place, see you on Monday.
Thanks and God bless! Aleta
"Be yourself, who else is better qualified?"
Thursday, February 19, 2015
AUTHENTICITY
It took me many years to learn how important authenticity was to my self-worth. Life is about making mistakes and learning from them. I once read, if you say something you wish you could take back, it would be like going to the top of a mountain and emptying a down feather pillow, and then trying to pick every one of them up. That's quite an emotional word picture.
It was about fifteen years ago I learned the word authentic, in terms of my growth. A friend gave me a wonderful book, Simple Abundance, by Sarah Ban Breathnache. The sub-title 'A Daybook of Comfort and Joy'. I will often quote her. I looked up authenticity in dictionary.com (a favorite past time) and here is what I found: authenticity: adj not false, genuine, having the origin supported by unquestionable evidence; reliable, trustworthy.
Most high school educated adults know what the word genuine means. But when talking about human beings, it has a much deeper meaning. Being authentic means being true to yourself, being the same person with your spouse, your boss, your children, the president of the United States, your ill tempered neighbor. Making conscious choices that are in line with your beliefs. We have to wake up each morning, look at ourselves in the mirror, and be happy with whom we are becoming - for some reason, unless we have a great professor in college who directs us to this introspection, many of us will not think about this until much later in life.
Why is authenticity and self-knowledge important to me? By the time I reached 30, I was tired of the role playing I was doing in my head. We have all done it - why did I say that, why didn't I just tell her I can't go, what did she mean by that, and if I had only said ..... blah, blah, blah! I was also tired of feeling badly, feeling guilty about saying no. I am a people pleaser, and that can make for a pretty miserable life if you let it get out of hand. I had to learn how to be assertive - polite, and smile, and yet get my feelings across. It was tough for me. But we are all in the same boat - we are all human beings with feelings, and weaknesses, and strengths, and we all make mistakes. On top of all that life is happening at warp speed - with stress, and health issues, and family stuff. It comes down to getting along with people - we have to learn to listen better and remember that maybe something awful just happened to them and that's why they responded that way. Learning to listen, and just be quiet and say something like - maybe this isn't a good time to go over this. My mother used to tell me "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all". That basically means be quiet, listen, and say very little.
Take 10 seconds of boldness each day, or each week, and do something out of your comfort zone, and see what happens. Obviously something that will benefit you and possibly others. Your heart may race, you may freak out and say you will never do that again, or you may get mad at me. That's okay, it won't be the first time someone got mad at me. But I guarantee you will feel better eventually and you will do it again. Getting out of our comfort zone never killed anyone, but it does help start the creativity flowing. When we feel strong and confident and can think clearly, we can do anything we set our minds to do. I would never have thought I could write to an audience. I used to worry too much about pleasing everyone. That is impossible of course.
I read that the average person uses less than 1% of her/his brain. What can we do today to change that?
Thank you and God Bless you! Aleta
"It's a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it."
author - Somerset Maugham
It was about fifteen years ago I learned the word authentic, in terms of my growth. A friend gave me a wonderful book, Simple Abundance, by Sarah Ban Breathnache. The sub-title 'A Daybook of Comfort and Joy'. I will often quote her. I looked up authenticity in dictionary.com (a favorite past time) and here is what I found: authenticity: adj not false, genuine, having the origin supported by unquestionable evidence; reliable, trustworthy.
Most high school educated adults know what the word genuine means. But when talking about human beings, it has a much deeper meaning. Being authentic means being true to yourself, being the same person with your spouse, your boss, your children, the president of the United States, your ill tempered neighbor. Making conscious choices that are in line with your beliefs. We have to wake up each morning, look at ourselves in the mirror, and be happy with whom we are becoming - for some reason, unless we have a great professor in college who directs us to this introspection, many of us will not think about this until much later in life.
Why is authenticity and self-knowledge important to me? By the time I reached 30, I was tired of the role playing I was doing in my head. We have all done it - why did I say that, why didn't I just tell her I can't go, what did she mean by that, and if I had only said ..... blah, blah, blah! I was also tired of feeling badly, feeling guilty about saying no. I am a people pleaser, and that can make for a pretty miserable life if you let it get out of hand. I had to learn how to be assertive - polite, and smile, and yet get my feelings across. It was tough for me. But we are all in the same boat - we are all human beings with feelings, and weaknesses, and strengths, and we all make mistakes. On top of all that life is happening at warp speed - with stress, and health issues, and family stuff. It comes down to getting along with people - we have to learn to listen better and remember that maybe something awful just happened to them and that's why they responded that way. Learning to listen, and just be quiet and say something like - maybe this isn't a good time to go over this. My mother used to tell me "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all". That basically means be quiet, listen, and say very little.
Take 10 seconds of boldness each day, or each week, and do something out of your comfort zone, and see what happens. Obviously something that will benefit you and possibly others. Your heart may race, you may freak out and say you will never do that again, or you may get mad at me. That's okay, it won't be the first time someone got mad at me. But I guarantee you will feel better eventually and you will do it again. Getting out of our comfort zone never killed anyone, but it does help start the creativity flowing. When we feel strong and confident and can think clearly, we can do anything we set our minds to do. I would never have thought I could write to an audience. I used to worry too much about pleasing everyone. That is impossible of course.
I read that the average person uses less than 1% of her/his brain. What can we do today to change that?
Thank you and God Bless you! Aleta
"It's a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it."
author - Somerset Maugham
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