The experts always say "if you don't like yourself, don't expect others to like you". We might ask how do people know if I don't like myself? Confidence and the lack of, shows in our attitude, tasks, everything we do on a daily basis. How we carry ourselves, dress, personal hygiene, relationships, work, and certainly health.
If you have been reading my blog since I started in early February, you know I overheard my mother and teacher talking about me. They said I was not very smart. I don't know the exact words, but essentially I knew what they meant! (I was about 8 years old). At the time, I don't remember it hurting, but of course I filed it away and then referred to it often, to substantiate their findings. If I didn't do well in math, I remembered....that's right, I am not very smart, so why try. Any class I took that was difficult, was because I was not very smart. I never considered what a boring subject, and I don't remember getting any encouraging words. And I don't remember any help with homework from either parent.
We have all been given a wonderful thing called a brain and as we get older we see the world and all the possibilities for us as human beings. Thank God I am a very positive person, happy, and hungry to learn. As it turned out, and as shocking as it would be to that terrible teacher, I am smart and they were wrong! But what is even sadder to me is to think of all the precious children that have overheard words like these. Children whose lives were changed forever, children who lost the desire to even try because after all, people they loved would only tell them the truth.
This is a topic very near to my heart for obvious reasons. Let's share with others how we have overcome adversities, how we didn't listen to negative nay-sayers, or how one person in our life was an encourager and told us we could do whatever we wanted to do. We need to keep in mind that we would be willing to work harder than anyone else. Nothing comes easy in this world. As we see all the Hollywood people, and athletes, extremely gifted people, and gorgeous, perfect people, we need to learn to Not compare ourselves. There will always be people that are better than us, and worse than us. There will always be people that are better looking than us and worse looking. And there will always be people that are smarter than us, and not as smart as us. A great quote I read from Theodore Roosevelt "Comparison is the thief of joy." Comparing your work, life, your looks anything, only robs us of happiness, it can suck the life right out of us.
As I said a few weeks back, age equals wisdom and I love the wisdom I have gained! I also love that I have always been hungry to learn. That is where reading good books is the best thing to increase wisdom, especially if one is still young. Also with age comes a sense of confidence and we know it doesn't matter what others think about us. Please read my blogs "I don't Care What Others Think About Me". Steam was coming out of my ears in some of those writings. Passion feels so good when you love what you do. If you notice the quote below, I am going to borrow it as my own, because those words could be mine!
Thank you, have a great day, and God Bless! Aleta
"I've worked very hard at understanding myself, learning to be assertive. I'm past the point where I worry about people liking me." across Pam Dauber
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