SAYING THANK YOU GOES A LONG WAY

Do you ever wonder why some of us accept compliments graciously and some don't? I have....it's our insecurities. Until just recently my stock answer would go something like this: Oh, it's an awful picture, or thank you but my mom helped me with that, or it's not very good, or you are a good dancer, Aleta, and I would say thanks but I'm just a beginner. What is the best answer? Thank you....a simple thank you will do! That takes a lot of practice. As the experts say, it takes at least 21 days to form a new habit. Since we don't get 21 days in a row to practice saying thank you, it may take months. This is a worthwhile goal to set.

Compliments are not given lightly either, they are a gift from the giver. They are from the heart and when we negate the gift, we are saying it wasn't worth much. That can be hurtful or insulting and certainly may discourage. It may even push people away from you. I remember a time when I was 18 and I had to show my driver's license to a clerk in a drug store. I pulled it out and showed the clerk, and a guy standing near me saw it and said that's a nice picture. And with all the immaturity of a teen age girl, I said "No, it's an awful picture". It was my first real job and the clerk was a co-worker. She said (later) I should have said thank you, he was trying to be nice and flirt with me. All these years later I still remember that day, and can picture the cosmetics counter when we stood. The older co-worker tried to teach me about accepting compliments - why did it take me so long to learn? I suspect it was all my hurts and hangups and insecurities.

Accepting compliments came up this morning while I was emailing my son. I believe I have mastered it. I try to say thank you graciously, with a smile, and always making eye contact. Grace is an important component, and a beautiful word if you think about it. I think of Grace Kelley when I think of that word. Who is Grace Kelley? A beautiful (and very graceful) actress for a short time,  and she married Prince Raineer lll, becoming Princess of Monaco. (1929-1982)

Gracious adj. pleasantly kind, benevolent, courteous; characterized by good taste. I like that last part, characterized by good taste.

Thank you! Good night and God Bless!   Aleta

"Before I get out of bed I am saying thank you! I know how important it is to be thankful."
- Al Jarreau, Jazz & Rn'B singer from the 1940's